Why do third person pronouns matter?
Seriously. Talking about gender fluid, they/them ze/zey kinda stuff. Rubbing elbows with a new crowd that would make bytehead look like Archie Bunker and I just have to wonder if people are seriously morally invested in being offended.
So, when using third party pronouns you are not talking to the person, right? So how can they be offended if you use the wrong one? They aren't there to hear it. And to make matters more mind blowingly innane... you have to guess the right pronoun based on setting and their level of being out.
But apparently as a cis-norm white male I just don't get it despite being bi and wiccan... because I never have to explain that.